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Guides to the lifestyle.

Practical, plain-English guides for couples and singles – whether you are still talking about it or already planning your next meet.

  • Two couples raising a toast over drinks

    Guide

    Your first time swinging

    Seven steps from “we’ve talked about it” to a first meet you both enjoy – talking, rules, profiles and the meet itself.

  • People seen from behind with their arms around each other

    Guide

    The hotwife guide

    What hotwifing is, how it differs from cuckolding, the styles couples choose and how to start slowly.

  • A relaxed group of friends with drinks on a sofa

    Guide

    Messages that get replies

    Profile tips, example openers, writing as a couple and moving from chat to a first meet.

  • Silhouetted legs of three people, two in heels, on a softly lit floor

    Guide

    Swinging as a single woman

    Unicorn evenings, spotting a good couple, meeting men and women, and keeping it on your terms.

  • Silhouettes of a couple against purple light

    Reference

    The swinging A–Z

    Every term you will meet on profiles and at parties – soft swap to zero pressure – in plain English.

Staying safe matters more than any guide – read how members are protected on our safety page, and how the community works on our community page.

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